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Tiny relationships do a lot of work

Distraction in clinic does not have to be elaborate. The useful kind is whatever helps a child enter a conversation.

Dr. Mari 1 min read · August 7, 2026

In clinic, distraction does not have to be elaborate. A picture on the wall. A character. A birthday scene. A question about school. A sticker. (Or a silly face)

Dr. Mari holding a phone in front of her face, showing a photo of her own eyes enlarged on the screen

off duty, still practicing the silly face

In our exam room we have a poster of Anpanman, a famous Japanese children's superhero.

The useful distraction is often the one that helps the child enter a conversation. If a child is crying but still sometimes peeking out at you, that curiosity can become a bridge.

"What do you see there?"
"Who do you think is having a birthday?"

Once the child answers, the room mood changes. The medical task is still there. But now there is also a relationship, even if it is just a tiny one.

In pediatric medicine, tiny relationships can do a lot of work.

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Educational writing, not a substitute for medical advice.

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